Doctors' lives are highly stressful, so you may have to help them unwind at the end of the day. A relationship with a doctor is likely to look very different from other types of romantic relationships.
While I couldn't do my husband's job, he couldn't do mine, either.
With the median age of first marriage now over 25 for both men and women in the United States, according to 2010 Census Bureau data, it's clear that young people of all vocations are waiting longer to tie the knot than their parents did.
The physician dating pool has also been changed by the fact that women have outnumbered men in American medical schools for most of the last decade.
Unfortunately, many other single physicians — despite their good looks, earning power, and big brains — stay that way a lot longer than they would prefer.
It's a pleasure to read your columns, and I value your thoughts highly. I generally relate well to women a bit older than me, and things have generally gone well in this regard.In previous generations, the long hours worked by the mostly male young doctors were tolerated by their partners as simply part of the deal.The payoff was the promise of future high earnings and hours that would, in time, become more manageable.That said, I do want to have a family someday, and if at all possible a biological as opposed to adoptive one.I have already seen women in my field who have put off starting families, only to find that (even with fertility therapy) their chance for childbearing has passed them by.The last few months, I have given a lot of thought to what I am looking for in a potential partner.But Parrott, a Kansas City family medicine practitioner, had just finished medical school and was in the midst of a grueling internship.It's really lonely up here all by myself." And that stayed with me. I am alone while he is: in clinic, in the OR, in meetings, in conference calls, rounding, dictating, charting, scheduling, speaking with patients, speaking with patients' families, attends conferences, attends M&M's, attends board meetings, meets with colleagues, meets with administrators, mentors residents, meets with attorneys, meets with bio tech execs, meets with engineers, takes call, etcetera, etcetera. I married for love, for his companionship, for a life partner.That night I laid in bed and stretched myself beyond my usual confines sprawling myself across the entire mattress. back to school nights, Christmas pagents, teacher's conferences, back to school bbq, end of school bbq, school auctions, graduation festivities, endless kids' sporting games, couples business dinners, family functions, parties, double dates, vacations, Yes, I live a life separate from my husband. I'll hold my gripes inside, fearing the judgment I know I would be met with... And when I dwell on that sentiment, it does make me lonely. Just like I could never be a doctor, my husband could never be a doctor's wife. But it isn’t just me that thinks male and female physicians are viewed very differently on the dating scene. In other words, when the s&%^ is hitting the fan, who do you want next to you, being your partner, and getting you through the hard times? Whether it is gaining admittance into medical school, suffering through Histology, placing into a residency, or working for 30 hours straight without sleep, we know what hard work looks like, because we have done it. Your in-laws have stayed too long, the baby is screaming, the cable is out, the game is on, and who knows what your firstborn is doing, wait, why is there water coming from underneath the bathroom door? You should appreciate that we can help our family and will always have a job. If you lose your job or become disabled or want to go back to school, you won’t have to worry about how your family will eat or be clothed. Spending time together can be difficult as doctors schedules are erratic.Try to be understanding that their plans will often change. As best I can tell, my dating troubles stem from a predilection for older women.