Said unfriendliness is often understandable, however; during a given night in a bar or nightclub, a physically attractive person will receive the lion’s share of the attention from the crowd, desired or otherwise.Nonetheless, it can be a crushing affair to work your way over to a person in a social setting and instigate conversation only to be loudly and unceremoniously shot down.The support of people who care about you can even be the springboard that allows you to jump back into the dating pool.Think Like a Salesperson Have you ever had a job where you had to sell something expensive, such as a car or a set of diamond earrings?Does your love life feel like a broken record that keeps skipping the second date?Or maybe it doesn’t even get that far—you enjoy a nice email exchange and a couple phone calls but always wind up riding solo on the Lonesometown Express.
At some point, the time comes to accept your differences and agree to move in different directions.
Anger or sadness can be better controlled if the negative response from the other person somehow resonates with our preferences.
If you are thinking of on the best way to turn down a date, probably the first think to do is to think about yourself and what would you feel if you were in the shoes of the person you are about to reject.
That is what I knew and that is what I was comfortable with. Changing self image and rejection takes a lot of hard work, affirmations and positive self-talk (as both GPYB and GBOT lay out in detail.) But putting it to work when you're dating is where the rubber meets the road.
I had to learn to treat myself well and think well of myself. You need to teach them you will not be bowed, cowed, or defeated. When you go through a devastating breakup, your self-esteem and self-image takes a hit. I believe that one of the reasons GPYB has been so successful is that I went through the breakup from hell, recovered my senses, discovered/created my life, changed EVERYTHING, and found the love of my life who, unfortunately, passed away from cancer.