It seems to me that our Christian society can get so fixated on the “physical” aspects of intimacy, that we neglect the emotional and spiritual components that can be just as binding and just as devastating in the end.There is some deep power in , more power than we give it credit. If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later. You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security? If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable. I’m sure it’s no surprise to hear that I get asked this question all the time from well-meaning young adults, looking to set up some boundaries in their relationships.But why is it that when we answer this question, we tend to fixate on the physical?For more information on this topic, check out "What's Wrong with Sex Before Marriage?" "5 Big Lies About Sex," "10 Ways to Practice Purity," "I Wish I Had Waited," and "Can You Become a Virgin Again? Well, we wanted to know what Christian students are saying about abstinence and sexual purity.
It’s important to put mental time and energy in questions like this and to set your limits within a dating relationship- which is why I’ve devoted an entire chapter to it in the most important thing?many thanks, - Dieter Hi Dieter It is great to see you being serious about keeping your relationship with your girlfiend pleasing to God.As one poet has said,"dating is a dangerous game, temptation should be its name!So today I want to share them with you in the hope that they can help you as well. I thought that was good enough, but when my willpower started slipping and I gradually decided I wanted to go farther, he was okay with that—as long as I was okay with that (which, eventually, I was). He wanted us to live rightly before God just as much (if not more) than I wanted to.We could encourage each other and stand strong together. When you’re in the moment—when you’re watching a movie in a dark room and everyone else has gone to bed—is the time to talk about your boundaries.It seemed like I was stuck in that cycle—until I met my husband, James. It was the beginning of the lifelong adventure of sex that we get to share with just each other And I am so thankful for that. I dated one truly wonderful guy—but he didn’t share my standards.We weren’t perfect and didn’t have it all figured out, but I can tell you this: Our wedding night was the first time we saw each other naked, the first time we touched each other in…well, you know…and the first time we slept in the same bed. I don’t have all the answers, but I did learn seven things that really helped me and my husband set physical boundaries while dating. He said, “That’s fine; if you don’t want to do this and such, then we won’t”—and he meant it. You must decide before you go on the date what your limits will be. It’s too difficult to think when passion overtakes you. You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God (Eph. But before we look at some of the principles, it is worth noting that God is not a kill-joy.In fact, his desire is that we live life to the full! Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection? If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives. If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance.