Though never a huge drinker, I was a steady one — easily downing up to three glasses of red wine per night — and since I'd become hopelessly addicted to Ambien, I was afraid that alcohol might turn problematic, too.
At the time, I was freshly single, and it had been a while since I'd been called upon to make awkward conversation with a stranger, play the "Who's Going to Pay for Dinner?
18 months ago the idea of sober dating would have sent a chill down my spine, connecting with a complete stranger without a drink?! I felt the same for years, until alcohol really stopped working for me and I began to consider a life of sobriety and what that would actually entail. Connection to my family, to my friends, to people I was dating.
I know that this won’t be a big issue for some people.Places that might have been a chaste date venue for teenagers in the 1950s are now just another place for Londoners to neck vodka milkshakes.If during this long dry month you’re dating or meeting up with a friend, this list offers a selection of alcohol-free venues and ideas.Anyone doing Dry January will tell you that staying sober while socialising is the hardest part.You might start the month with the willpower of a saint but, after spending a couple of nights drinking Coca Cola, you soon find yourself dreaming you’re being seduced by a talking pint of stout.But when you're sober, spending three hours with a guy who keeps trying to hang his jacket on the hook under the bar while he's still wearing it is torture.See, I decided to quit drinking after a 10-year battle with insomnia and sleeping pills. C.-based writer Laura Barcella, 37, wrote on that she was 29 when she realized her regular blackouts and reckless drunken behavior meant she needed to give up drinking, but she never thought it would have such an effect on her luck in the dating world.Love lost: From prospects who assumed she has issues to those who lamented not being able to enjoy a drink together, Miss Barcella (left) says living a sober life has led to a string of romantic disappointments Even dating sober men turned out to be a bust.Turns out it’s pretty empowering, and you don’t wake up with a banging head ache dreading what you said and to who. Sober dating is by far the most empowering thing I have done in sobriety, connecting with A TOTAL stranger minus our dear old friend Mr Alcohol makes me feel like super woman I won’t lie. Get Sweaty With Your Date: Now I am biased but these are by far my favourite dates.And for that reason, here’s a round up of suggestions when going on a sober date. Switch It up: Day dates are just as fun and actually a great way to see if you want to take things up a notch and go on an evening date. There is nothing better than getting sweaty on a bike or in a class, then heading out for lunch afterwards.My friends in the country first date sober constantly because they have to drive everywhere, damn city living and cheap uber’s: The most straightforward approach and one I have tried many a time. with sensible people, less well with the “lad” type.One such “lad” cancelled straight up when I told him I wouldn’t be drinking in advance of the date, ouch.There are so many lovely places now that have really lovely alcohol free cocktail menu’s and a choice of many alcohol free beers.